My entire knowledge of India comes from books (Anita Desai, Rohinton Mistry, Salman Rushdie), so my sense is that if you *don't* have an uneasy relationship with the place, you haven't understood it. But I could be wrong about that. Happy Independence Day, and enjoy your visiting cousin. It's the prerogative of older, more exciting family members to corrupt their slightly-youngers. Just ask *my* younger cousins.